
when you are pregnant, there are SO many issues you have to make a decision about, and no shortage of people willing to give advice. i wanted not to give advice, but to share my experience and conclusions about one particular issue all new moms must face – diapers. there are several options to choose from. in the end, each family must decide which solution (or combination of solutions) fits them best. we’ll start with the obvious.
disposables
there are many reasons to choose disposable diapers. they are sanitary, convenient, easy on baby’s skin (pulling moisture away makes for less diaper rash problems), and less work for moms who already have way too much to do. so, why not use them? they are extremely expensive, they can leave you in a pinch (2am and we’re out of diapers – now what?), and some reports consider disposable diapers to be the worst offenders in the garbage dumps, possibly taking hundreds or even thousands of years to biodegrade. these factors, and a sentimental whim i carry for an impossibly old-fashioned lifestyle, led me to consider the less popular alternative of our time: cloth diapers.
cloth
cloth diapers were the only alternative in the history of babies up until about 25years ago, so they obviously do the job just fine. they are nice and soft (some disposables feel like a strip of cardboard with sticky tabs), you never run out, there’s no cost past the initial purchase of diapers with plastic covers and pins (which i was given at a baby shower), and they leave no garbage for the dump. so, why not use them? i have to admit, the first months of having a baby were some of the most difficult in my life. my son needed constant attention and feeding, and i had almost no sleep. the last thing i wanted to do was rinse the used diapers in the toilet, pile them in the “soaking bucket”, and then have to smell them all again at the end of the day when it was time to put them through the wash. i also worried about poking my son with the diaper pin as he got older and very squirmy at changing time (happy to say, that has never happened). some environmental reports declare that the water spent to wash the cloth diapers makes them a worse waste of resources than disposables. what’s a mom to do? there is a third option that i came across in my research that sounded wonderful to me, but not very practical in my situation.
dpt
diaperless potty training (dpt) is what is used in countries where diapers are considered a luxury item for the wealthy. dpt can begin when your child is as young as six weeks old. parents get to know their children well enough to sense the body language signs given before babies relieve themselves and then hold them over the potty in a slightly folded position. dpt advocates encourage babies to go completely naked, only wearing pants and underwear at an age when children would naturally be dressing to go places outside the home. fun times! children get to run around as God intended without feeling ashamed, parents know their children well enough to predict potty use, and children become familiar with the bathroom so they’re never afraid of the potty. no power struggle to untrain the use of diapers when they are two or three, and there is no cost EVER for anything. so why not use this system? i was really enamored with the idea of dpt, but i knew i would have to go back to work when my son was seven weeks old. nobody but a mom is going to go through that much trouble (i think). also, i was concerned about my ability to “catch” the signs that Josiah was ready to go and end up cleaning messes all over the house. i never did get to try dpt, but as my son is now almost eighteen months old and i know him a little better, i am trying to occasionally hold him over the potty while he goes so that he can get used to the idea.
i used only cloth diapers for several months. when my son actually began sleeping, i found that he slept longer if a wet diaper did not wake him. at that point, i decided to make a compromise and use disposable diapers at night. after a not-so-pleasant cloth diaper changing experience on the ground at a farmer’s market, i also decided that using disposables while out and about town would probably be a good idea. for my family, i feel i’ve got the best of both worlds. i use cloth diapers at home during the daytime, which saves us LOTS of money and makes me feel better about creating less garbage. when my son sleeps through the night or i choose to hand him over to a nursery worker at church, i’m glad he’s wearing a disposable. i think the best part will be when he is completely potty trained, though, and all this is a fun memory.
does anyone else have interesting diaper experiences or ideas?